The stereotype of men in society
by Adrian Yeates, See Change Ambassador
It must be great to be a man.
Imagine, an accident of birth that bestows so many gifts and opportunities that make living so easy and rewarding. To be tall and strong, ambitious and successful, wise and resilient. What a fantastic advantage!
Unless, of course, you are male and don’t like sports or maybe work in an ordinary job. What if you are sensitive and empathetic or, worse still, get scared or feel vulnerable from time to time? Imagine not being able to manage the stresses and strains of life? What would people think? What would they say?
For a man, it’s probably best not to risk drawing attention to these weakness and failings. Man up, grit your teeth and struggle on. It might just be a phase you’re going through? Maybe have a few drinks or something stronger and things will look better. The last thing you want is to do is to let the side down…
Unfortunately, too many men suffer with their mental health and, due to public stigma and stereotyping, they refuse to get help early and eventually find themselves in crisis. I know because that’s what I did. I lived in denial and suffered in silence until I could bear it no more. Luckily, I did get help, but too many men don’t. In Ireland, 75% of suicides are male – someone’s father, brother, or son. That’s the horrific cost of stereotyping in a society that can be so unforgiving.
Imagine a world where you can be yourself and get help or support when you need it?
Now, that would be great!
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